Three Years of Learning

Today's post is specially dedicated to my 3-years-relationship with my partner. I don't really fond of the nick 'boyfriend', because to me (and Oxford Dictionaries :p), boyfriend is a companion of love and romantic stuff, otherwise partner is a companion who takes part in my life; part of every aspects of my life that I willingly share to my partner. Okay, enough with the nickname!

I want to share a bit about our relationship that thankfully can last this long without ever breaking up. Ours is not perfect. Just like other relationships. Ours has challenges and problems. But we manage to face that challenges by the act of two. Yes, the act of me and my partner. My partner is an introvert kind of man. He doesn't talk so much and I think it's a little bit hard for him to make a sentence that represents his feelings. I am; is the other way around. I always talk my mind and heart out to him. What I want and don't want, what I like and dislike, etc. We try to find out the solution of the problem that is best for both of us (that act of two). It wasn't rare that we didn't solve the problem in a day. That was the time we need to think deeply and put a day or two to think and find the solution.

In the first year, I felt a lot going on. It was the time of adapting to my partner. The second year was still an adapting moment. In this third year? indeed it is still an adapting moment for us both. Adaptation is a process. Process is a step to achieve a particular goal. Have we achieved a particular goal? In a few things, yes we have. We have achieved the best way to communicate for both of us. We have achieved to see some of our similar perspectives to live. But, the unachieved goals are still waiting for us. That's why we're partnering to adapt. To achieve our particular goals.

We also goof a lot. People often see us as silly and joking couple. Indeed we are :p But, I believe every couple has the serious part of them. We have it too.. And once we do, we take it very seriously.

So, based on those words above, I conclude the keys for our relationship: communication and patience. I know every couple has different keys for their relationship. Will my partner and I find other keys? Might be.. Since we're only three years, there are must be a lot of things ahead of us.

And the most important thing is, I always feel secure to be with my partner (I've never even said it to him directly). I used to be an insecure one. I was afraid that my partner would cheating on me. But now, I realized that mindset was shaped because I had been cheated on a long time ago (to my ex-boyfriend). My recent partner makes me feel so safe and secure. As if he assures me that he will not hurt me and I believe in him. I know I can't be 100% sure because I am just a human, I don't know what future might bring us. But, I don't know.. I just have a strong feeling that my partner will not hurt me in any way. I believe he is a gentleman.

Here's to our disgusting hair :'D